Online dating dos and dont
My finished product reflected my attitude at the time—a combination of "you have to play to win" and "hey, why not?
Here's what I've learned about writing a good ad: 1.
Props that make you feel soulful, frisky, and fascinating help you make those claims for yourself in your ad. It might sound obvious, but be sure to post a terrific photo of yourself. More to the point: I wanted to attract a man who appreciated subtlety.
If you're not comfortable putting your picture up online, avoid overselling your appearance with dubious claims like "Sharon Stone look-alike." I started my magazine personal with: "Curvy, almond-eyed writer, fit (good shoulders)...." My husband says he was attracted to the soft sell of the description and the quirky confidence of the assertion.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.
But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.
If you really like her, just go with the flow and be yourself, regardless of whether “yourself” is a silly, dorky, immature 57-year old or a wise and mature 24.
Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.
Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.
Dear Geoff, Glad to hear you found someone special, and even happier that you spoke up.